Marriage Isn’t a Fairytale – It’s a High-Stakes Contract
Marriage isn’t just a cute wedding, a joint bank account, and some Instagram-worthy anniversary trips. It’s a brutal, lifelong contract that can either make or completely destroy you. If you’re still seeing love through rose-colored glasses, check out our raw takes on Balancing Love & Life.
And most of you reading this AREN’T ready for it. Not even close.
So before you say “I do” and sign your financial and emotional future away, read this.
Because if even ONE of these is true for you, you have NO business getting married.
1. You Have No Idea What You’re Signing Up For
Most people think marriage is about love. IT’S NOT. It’s a legally binding contract — an entanglement of assets, debts, liabilities, and lifelong financial obligations.
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2. You Still Think Love Is Enough
Love is cute, but it won’t save your marriage when:
- The bills pile up
- Your sex life dies
- Your partner starts resenting you
- You realize you married a financially reckless person
3. You’re Marrying for the Wrong Reasons
Be honest — why are you REALLY getting married?
- We’ve been together so long—it’s the next step
- I don’t want to be alone
- I want kids before I get too old
- My family expects it
- I don’t want to waste time dating anymore
4. You Don’t Know How to Handle Conflict Without It Getting Ugly
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5. You’re Not Financially Stable
Broke people and financially reckless people shouldn’t get married.
Marriage is about MONEY too.
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6. You Have Unresolved Trauma
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7. You Have No Sexual Compatibility Plan
Your partner’s sex drive WILL change. If you’re mismatched now, it WILL be a problem later.
Honest communication about sex is non-negotiable. If you're too shy to talk about it — you're not ready.
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8. You Haven’t Talked About the “Unsexy” Topics
These are the crucial things you need to talk about:
- Who handles the finances?
- What happens if one of you loses a job?
- How will you split housework?
- Do you want kids? How will you raise them?
- How involved should your families be?
- What if someone cheats?
9. You’re Not Willing to Make Marriage a DAILY Effort
Marriage takes effort. Every day. Forever.
It’s not a fairy tale — it’s a lifelong decision that requires daily work and conscious choice.
The Harsh Reality: Most People Shouldn’t Get Married
If you haven’t done the work — DON’T get married.
If you’re ignoring red flags — DON’T get married.
If this post pissed you off — GOOD. That means you needed to hear it.
Stay single until you’re ready.
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