Social media has changed the way people connect, flirt, and even cheat. While it has made communication easier, it has also created new challenges for trust and loyalty in relationships. If you have ever questioned whether social media is ruining your relationship, you are not alone.
1. They Always “Forget” to Mention You Online
Why This Matters: If you are in a relationship, your partner should not be acting single online.
Red Flags to Watch For:
- No couple pictures, no tags, no cute posts.
- They claim they are just a “private person” (but post everything else).
- They have hidden your relationship status or refuse to change it.
"My boyfriend posted a selfie with the caption ‘single life’—as a ‘joke.’ I was not laughing." – Amanda, 27
Reality Check: If they are acting single on social media, there is a reason.
2. They’re Always Liking and Commenting on Someone Else’s Photos
Why This Matters: A “like” is not always innocent—sometimes, it is a digital breadcrumb.
Red Flags to Watch For:
- Always first to like or comment on a specific person’s posts.
- Comments that are borderline flirty.
- “Accidentally” liking old photos from years ago.
"My girlfriend noticed I liked a random girl’s bikini picture from 2017. She was not happy. And honestly? I had no good excuse." – Ibrahim, 30
Reality Check: A pattern of flirty likes and comments? That is not harmless—it is calculated.
3. They Have “Secret” Social Media Accounts
Why This Matters: If they have a hidden second Instagram, Snapchat, or TikTok… why?
Red Flags to Watch For:
- A “finsta” (fake Instagram) that you were not supposed to find.
- A Snapchat account they never told you about.
- A burner Twitter where they talk like they are single.
"I found my fiancé’s secret TikTok where he was commenting on random girls’ dance videos. We broke up the next day." – Daira, 29
Reality Check: If they are keeping social media separate from you, ask yourself why.
Social Media Is Not the Problem—Lack of Respect Is
Social media itself is not the issue. The way people use it in relationships, however, is a different story.
Micro-cheating is real. And just because someone is not technically cheating does not mean they are being loyal.