Still Following Your Ex On Social Media? You’re Playing Yourself.

You claim you’ve moved on.
You say you’re over them.
You tell yourself it’s “harmless” to keep them on your timeline.

You’re lying.

If you’re still following your ex, you’re sabotaging your own healing.

Keeping them in your digital space is nothing but a slow, self-inflicted mind game that keeps you trapped in the past.

So let’s cut the nonsense: Block them. Right now. No excuses.

1. If You’re Watching Them, You’re Not Over Them

You know exactly what I’m talking about.

• You check their stories to see if they’re with someone new.
• You overanalyze their captions, looking for hidden messages.
• You compare their “glow-up” to your own post-breakup progress.

You think you’re just “keeping up.” But let’s be honest:

If you didn’t care, you wouldn’t be watching.

Every time you scroll past their face, you reopen a wound. Every time you see them happy, you question your own healing.

Why are you willingly putting yourself through this?

2. You’re Giving Them Power Over You

Still following your ex? Congratulations—you’ve just given them VIP access to your emotions.

They know you’re still watching.
They know they can post something cryptic and get under your skin.
They know they can drop a “harmless” like on your post and send you spiraling.

They own real estate in your head.

And the worst part? You’re the one paying the mortgage.

When you keep that connection, you’re handing them control over your mood, your progress, and your ability to move on.

Take your power back. Hit that block button.

3. “We Can Be Friends” is a Delusion

Let’s get real: You’re not friends.

Maybe you tell yourself you are. Maybe you think you’re being mature. Maybe you believe you’re above the drama.

But deep down, you know the truth.

• If they got into a new relationship, would you be 100% happy for them?
• If they stopped interacting with you online, would it bother you?
• If they hit you up one night, would you still be “just friends”?

Most people aren’t actually friends with their exes. They’re just keeping the door open—whether they realize it or not.

And let’s be real: That’s disrespectful to your future relationships.

For more on emotional boundaries, check out Emotional Intimacy & Connection.

4. You’re Stalking, Not Moving On

Think about how ridiculous this sounds:

• You won’t text them anymore… but you’ll still watch their life play out on your screen.
• You won’t see them in person… but you’ll analyze who they’re liking on Instagram.
• You won’t admit you care… but you’ll scroll through their feed at 2 AM like a detective.

You call it “curiosity.” I call it self-sabotage.

Real moving on means cutting all ties—including the digital ones.

Block them and set yourself free.

5. You’re Setting Yourself Up for Emotional Relapses

Here’s how it happens:

• You see a nostalgic post.
• You convince yourself they’re missing you.
• You start replaying old memories in your head.
• Before you know it, you’re contemplating sending a text.

One post. One comment. One DM. That’s all it takes to undo months of progress.

You can’t “heal” while keeping the source of your heartbreak in your line of sight.

If you’re serious about moving forward, burn the bridge and don’t look back.

6. They’re Watching You Too—And That’s a Problem

Do you really want your ex lurking on your life?

• Watching your glow-up.
• Judging your new relationships.
• Getting an ego boost every time you engage with their posts.

If you think they don’t care, think again.

Most exes love knowing they still have access to you. It feeds their ego. It makes them feel like they still matter in your life.

Don’t give them that satisfaction. Block them and starve their curiosity.

For more on breaking toxic emotional ties, read Pre-Marriage Foundations.

7. “Blocking is Petty” is the Dumbest Lie Ever

Some people think blocking an ex is childish. Immature. Petty.

You know what’s actually childish?

• Keeping an ex around just to prove a point.
• Playing mind games by “accidentally” viewing their stories.
• Letting someone who hurt you continue to have space in your life.

Blocking is not petty. It’s peace.

It’s choosing your mental health over fake digital maturity.

If they don’t add value to your life anymore, why are you giving them access?

They don’t deserve front-row seats to your life anymore. Block them.

8. It’s the Ultimate Test of Whether You’ve Really Moved On

Still convinced you don’t need to block them?

Try this:

• Ask yourself why you won’t.
• Are you hoping they’ll reach out one day?
• Are you still attached to the idea of them?
• Are you afraid of how it will make you look?

If you truly didn’t care, blocking wouldn’t even feel like a big deal.

The hesitation means there’s still an emotional connection—and that’s exactly why you need to do it.

9. If You Have a New Partner, It’s Disrespectful

Keeping an ex in your digital orbit while starting a new relationship is a walking red flag.

It signals you’re not emotionally done.
It creates unnecessary drama.
It disrespects your new partner’s trust.

For more on emotional trust in relationships, check out Love in the Digital Age.

Final Verdict: Block. Delete. Move On Social Media

Stop pretending staying connected is a sign of maturity.
Stop making excuses for keeping them in your space.
Stop playing yourself by keeping old wounds open.

Block them. Delete them. Take your life back.

If you’re ready to stop clinging to the past, let them disappear from your screen—and your life.

What’s stopping you from blocking your ex? Let’s argue in the comments.